Monday, 29 November 2010


I would like to thank you all for your messages of condolence and support and also Antonella and her family for the bereavement card they sent to us.

We have been told that, due to a large number of deaths, we will not even hear about a death certificate until this coming Friday but also they will not decide until about mid-week as to whether there will be a post-mortem or not. The hospital had not expected him to die, so this could well be a possibility.

Of course, there is also going to be a delay with any undertaker for the same reason that we cannot get a death certificate so it looks as if the burial will take place well into December. We can only hope it will all be done by Christmas.

So the pattern goes on. Our mother was buried on the 17th December and our father died on December 26th as well as my maternal Grandfather who also died in December and had a burial straight on top of Christmas.

So, we remain very much in the dark as to what is going to happen and when.

This should be such a happy time for us as, on this coming Sunday, 5th December, Mike and I celebrate our Ruby Wedding Anniversary (40 years). Of course, this cannot be the same now. Nobody in the family feels like celebrating. We had intended to invite Geoff up for a few hours and he was looking forward to it.

I truly dislike Christmas now, it is full of nothing but sad memories.

Thank you all again for your love and support. All your messages have touched us deeply.

I will be back when I can but all this has made me feel very unwell and I cannot put my heart into anything. I find myself unable to read, concentrate on the television or listen to the radio. I still cannot really believe he is gone.


  1. Jeannette,
    It is deeply sad coincidence that your close relatives all seem to pass away in the month of December, which is supposed to be such a joyous month. Well, it is not for everybody.
    It is distressing that you are not able to have initial closure on your brother's death (by virtue of a funeral) for all the reasons you mention, but I hope that those formalities can be cleared soon. I wish you and yours all strength in days and weeks to come. Although it's not even December yet, I do hope 2011 will be better for you.


  2. sorry for how you're feeling Jeanette and for how it has ruined Christmas..i always loved your decorations!!

  3. Take care and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. I am truly sorry you are filled with such sadness. I am keeping you in my Prayers for peace & comfort.

  5. sorry love. you take care,all the best,love mort xx

  6. Blessings to you and family during December. may your heart heal quickly and return to more happier days...

  7. Dear Jeannette
    So sorry for your recent Bereavement...and hope that you find peace in the weeks to come.

    December isn't a good time for everyone, and know how you feel, my Father died 16th December, Funeral on the 23rd.
    Hope your injections have given you some comfort, I had one on my Wrist 10 days ago.
    I go to Hospital on 14th (My B'Day) and again on 24th investigations.
    So, can't really concentrate on Christmas this year.

    Take care

  8. I am so sorry about your brother. All my family seems to pass around Christmas also. I remember the season as the one they all loved the best. Take care.

  9. My heart breaks for you at the loss of your brother. Just know that you are loved.

  10. I can understand that Christmas is always such a painful time for you Jeannette, and to have to wait for your dear brother`s death certificate can only add to your deep sadness. Take care.

    Love and Hugs

    Sandra xxx

  11. Sending you my prayers Jeanette. My heart goes out to you.

  12. It is going to be a sad christmas for many of us this year jeanette, but for the sake of your wee boys you will have to bravely put the smile on your face and make it a happy time for them at least. Also we must think back with a smile to happier times you with your brother ans me with my darling brother in law.. For sure they would not like to see our sad faces..
    My thoughts love and prayers wing there way to you all,
    Love Sybil x

  13. Dear Jeannette, I'm praying that our dear Heavenly Father will fill your heart with comfort & peace at this most holy time of the year. And I agree, we always look forward to your holiday decorations & stories of your grand boys. Hopefully, your spirits will lift as you remember happy times with those who have passed. Hugs to you...Linda in Washington state

  14. Sorry to hear this Jeannette,, but hope you and Mike can slavage something for your day on the 5th December 40 yrs is indeed something to look forward to.


  15. So sorry about this, Jeannette. You don't need this delay on top of everything you're going too. Hope you can have a closure soon. And please try to enjoy your anniversary with Mike and your family. I'm sure your brother will be with you in spirit. Hugs. A.

  16. So sorry, again, Jeannette. I hope you and Mike can have some kind of celebration for your anniversary. You two deserve it. You remain in my prayers. Love, Val xox

  17. Jeannette once again I am so sorry for your loss... I do hope you and Mike enjoy your anniversary... celebrated and make good memories :) Love ya

  18. Jeanette it is indeed hard to be in a festive mood when your heart is so sad...Joe & I celebrated our 32 year anniversary on May 5th and one month later he was with all do respect for your brother I still say..hug your man and celebrate in some way the glorious years that you have had together, its important. You also write so well you need to tell the stories of the loved ones who have passed that way they remain in everyone's you, Sandi


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